While anger has its place if anger is not managed it can become a very dangerous thing.
“He’s just cut in front of me”; “Why is it always me that clears the kitchen”; “how dare they say that!” We all get angry at some time. Perhaps we are treated unfairly or with no respect or you feel you have to defend yourself. There is that moment when anger grips us and we seem to lose control in our need to get something changed and changed now. Continue reading
The shock of discovering your partner has had an affair can be overwhelming. The physical pain of the betrayal, all make it seem like the relationship is over. For many they know at that point that there is no way back that the relationship is over. What if you feel on reflection that you would like to try to salvage your relationship what next.
Most people want to know the details. Who, when, where, it is important that the wronged partner can hear honestly the detail of the affair, if they want even if that is painful for them. Being honest signals that there really is a desire to move past the infidelity and commit once again to their partner Continue reading
Many couples in the current economic climate find their relationship under more pressure than ever. Indeed for many it is the straw that breaks the camel’s back. For many they turn to marriage or relationship therapy in the hope that it will rescue their relationship and they can be happy once again.
However, most couples want to know does couples therapy work so in this article we will look at what it offers. Probably the key thing that couples therapy offers you space. A time that is set aside and an environment structured for you to talk to your partner about your relationship. Many find this intimidating at first Continue reading
Some of the most viewed articles are on relationships and the associated problems. Many of our articles talk about the steps that you can take to repair or fix your relationship. Simple steps like communicating more, sharing more and respecting each other. Yet a question that I am asked repeatedly belongs before we get to any saving of a relationship.
“How do you know if the relationship is worth saving?” Continue reading
How are you today?
The dictionary defines the word fine as you are in good health and you have no problems. Does this sound like your reality? You have arrived at work after battling through the rush hour and you are fine! It seems more like you would be frustrated or angry or stressed. You have had a fight with your partner and you are out with friends can you describe yourself as fine? Continue reading
Motivation is the human condition which drives us towards our desires and goals. Of course motivation can be seen at many levels it might be the desire to go out and get food if we are hungry or it might be to give up smoking because of the health benefits. It is the latter type of motivation that concerns us here, the motivation to change ourselves for the better, for it is this type of motivation that so many say they lack. Continue reading
There has been much in the news recently about stress at work and the problems that people have. They worry that admitting to stress will have consequences for their career and potentially continued employment. So what are the things that can help with stress.
Stress is a natural reaction to a degree of stimulation. When we were all hunting woolly Mammoths this was useful, it provided a safety system for the preservation of life. If you spotted the sabre toothed tiger sneaking up on you, the stress response would kick in. Known as the fight or flight response your body triggers a reaction. Continue reading