It’s often hard to go and see a counsellor to admit something is wrong, because it says something about you. Many people feel that they have failed because they have to seek help. Others feel that this is the start of some terrible mental breakdown that will cast them into an asylum with no hope of seeing the light of day.
In reality neither of these is true, in many ways you could have said to have succeeded in noticing something wrong and to be seeking help from a professional. Rather like a pain and seeing a doctor. With 1 in 4 of us likely to suffer from anxiety or depression in our lives, increasingly society is seeing mental illness as much more main stream, very treatable, and is likely to know someone who is a success story. Like mainstream illness very few need hospital treatment.
Sometimes the problems can be brought on by life events and they cause us to re-examine values. Sometimes we look back and regret the things that matter least (fights and being right) with those who matter most. As one client put it I’d rather be happy than right.
So when we feel that something is wrong, perhaps we are questioning how our world seems different than we expected or remember. People say how well we look when we are depressed or how lucky we are when we feel we want our lives to change. Perhaps it is a good thing to seek out a professional counsellor. They won’t judge you as stupid or mad and will accept who you are and will help you through your issues.
So you owe it to yourself to accept the person that you are and to live life to the full. For being yourself is the only way to happiness.