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The shock of discovering your partner has had an affair can be overwhelming. The physical pain of the betrayal, all make it seem like the relationship is over. For many they know at that point that there is no way back that the relationship is over. What if you feel on reflection that you would like to try to salvage your relationship what next.
Most people want to know the details. Who, when, where, it is important that the wronged partner can hear honestly the detail of the affair, if they want even if that is painful for them. Being honest signals that there really is a desire to move past the infidelity and commit once again to their partner Continue reading
Many couples in the current economic climate find their relationship under more pressure than ever. Indeed for many it is the straw that breaks the camel’s back. For many they turn to marriage or relationship therapy in the hope that it will rescue their relationship and they can be happy once again.
However, most couples want to know does couples therapy work so in this article we will look at what it offers. Probably the key thing that couples therapy offers you space. A time that is set aside and an environment structured for you to talk to your partner about your relationship. Many find this intimidating at first Continue reading
Some of the most viewed articles are on relationships and the associated problems. Many of our articles talk about the steps that you can take to repair or fix your relationship. Simple steps like communicating more, sharing more and respecting each other. Yet a question that I am asked repeatedly belongs before we get to any saving of a relationship.
“How do you know if the relationship is worth saving?” Continue reading
How are you today?
Fine thanks.
The dictionary defines the word fine as you are in good health and you have no problems. Does this sound like your reality? You have arrived at work after battling through the rush hour and you are fine! It seems more like you would be frustrated or angry or stressed. You have had a fight with your partner and you are out with friends can you describe yourself as fine? Continue reading
Couples coming to relationship counselling do so for a variety of reasons. There are no end of environmental factors putting pressure on couples today from stretched family budgets, through pressure at work or interference from family and friends. Perhaps couples feel that relationship counselling is only for those couples where there is infidelity or where splitting up is imminent. While these are serious crisis and things that can be addressed in relationship counselling they are not the only reason you might want to book a session. Continue reading
Many clients talk about a lack of confidence. Others feel that people or events hold them back judging their words and actions. This short article asks the reader to take 10 minutes to look at their confidence and see if it can be boosted.
Confidence is the bedrock of making changes in your life, even if you only have confidence that you want to change. What can be done to conquer our fears and make us more confident each day?
It is worth starting by looking at your insecurities perhaps writing them out on a sheet of paper. Perhaps you are afraid of speaking in public, perhaps you are worried you wear the wrong clothes or perhaps you are confused by others around you. Perhaps you are scared that you don’t understand what is going on and don’t want to appear stupid. As you look at each and name it – try to understand what is behind it – was there an experience, was it something someone said perhaps that is the way it was always handled when you were a child. What you are trying to do here is “know your enemy”; this is the first step in doing something about it.
Next we look at our achievements, and not necessarily huge things like running a marathon (but well done if you did) but anything which was a challenge for you and you completed. Perhaps you are afraid of dogs, but you went for a walk in the park, perhaps you spoke to your friend about a difficult subject, perhaps you raised a difficult issue with your manager at work or tried to sort out bullying. Again look at each and try to understand why you achieved it what drove you on through the fear. Continue reading
This and other blogs have long expressed the opinion that problems in relationships are caused by problems in communication. There is a simple test that you can try with your partner to see if you do communicate effectively and can agree on a result you are both happy with.
- First take an object that had meaning for both of you (It must be small enough to be held). For example: a photograph or a piece of jewellery, an ornament or such. Continue reading
