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How are you today?
Fine thanks.
The dictionary defines the word fine as you are in good health and you have no problems. Does this sound like your reality? You have arrived at work after battling through the rush hour and you are fine! It seems more like you would be frustrated or angry or stressed. You have had a fight with your partner and you are out with friends can you describe yourself as fine? Continue reading
There has been much in the news recently about stress at work and the problems that people have. They worry that admitting to stress will have consequences for their career and potentially continued employment. So what are the things that can help with stress.
Stress is a natural reaction to a degree of stimulation. When we were all hunting woolly Mammoths this was useful, it provided a safety system for the preservation of life. If you spotted the sabre toothed tiger sneaking up on you, the stress response would kick in. Known as the fight or flight response your body triggers a reaction. Continue reading
Do you have that Monday morning feeling every day of the week? Do you find that you explode at the smallest thing? You have sleepless nights, despite always being tired. Perhaps you suffer from work related stress.
In a recent report the Health and Safety Executive (HSE) reported that as many as 20% of UK workers feel extremely stressed at work. Continue reading
Many clients talk about a lack of confidence. Others feel that people or events hold them back judging their words and actions. This short article asks the reader to take 10 minutes to look at their confidence and see if it can be boosted.
Confidence is the bedrock of making changes in your life, even if you only have confidence that you want to change. What can be done to conquer our fears and make us more confident each day?
It is worth starting by looking at your insecurities perhaps writing them out on a sheet of paper. Perhaps you are afraid of speaking in public, perhaps you are worried you wear the wrong clothes or perhaps you are confused by others around you. Perhaps you are scared that you don’t understand what is going on and don’t want to appear stupid. As you look at each and name it – try to understand what is behind it – was there an experience, was it something someone said perhaps that is the way it was always handled when you were a child. What you are trying to do here is “know your enemy”; this is the first step in doing something about it.
Next we look at our achievements, and not necessarily huge things like running a marathon (but well done if you did) but anything which was a challenge for you and you completed. Perhaps you are afraid of dogs, but you went for a walk in the park, perhaps you spoke to your friend about a difficult subject, perhaps you raised a difficult issue with your manager at work or tried to sort out bullying. Again look at each and try to understand why you achieved it what drove you on through the fear. Continue reading
This and other blogs have long expressed the opinion that problems in relationships are caused by problems in communication. There is a simple test that you can try with your partner to see if you do communicate effectively and can agree on a result you are both happy with.
- First take an object that had meaning for both of you (It must be small enough to be held). For example: a photograph or a piece of jewellery, an ornament or such. Continue reading
Anxiety is something that we have all suffered from in our lives, whether it is exam nerves or just when trying something new for the first time. The anxiety soon passes and we get on. Yet imaging if the anxiety would not go away imaging if that sense of dread stayed with you, always worrying about what might/ could/ would go wrong. Continue reading
It can be difficult in the current economic situation to stay positive. We worry about money, we worry how we will pay the mortgage, we worry about our job, and we worry about our children. It is easy to see how stress and anxiety build.
This can become a spiral into anxiety and depression as the stress makes us worry about more and more situations that might happen as we catastrophize about our future. Yet there are things that we can do to combat stress, easy steps to follow that will allow us to take a more balanced view of life. Continue reading
